Why can’t she just eat? She can’t eat because the eating disorder won’t allow her to. It sounds bizarre, but when your daughter crossed the invisible line between losing weight and anorexia, she may as well have entered the Twilight Zone. And like it or not, you are there with her and nothing is as it appears.

Why can’t she just eat? She can’t eat because the eating disorder won’t allow her to. It sounds bizarre, but when your daughter crossed the invisible line between losing weight and anorexia, she may as well have entered the Twilight Zone. And like it or not, you are there with her and nothing is as it appears.

What can I do? The first thing you need to accept is there is one thing you can’t do. You cannot fix this or talk her out of it. You are thinking logically and rationally, she is not. She is under the influence of the eating disorder and who she listens to most depends upon how far down the road she is in the illness. You have to compete with all the other voices she is hearing in her head right now, and yours is a ways down the list.

Okay, I can’t fix it, what can I do? You can educate yourself about eating disorders and get her and your family the help they need. One of the main reasons parents miss the signs of a developing eating disorder is because it usually happens gradually; and whether it takes several months or a year, it does not happen overnight. If you missed some of the signs, you are not alone.

You’re reading this so you are already doing the first part. Most parents cannot fight their daughter’s illness without assistance. Minimally they need someone to coach them through what to do and what not to do and to give them information. You will have to do research to find the right person or treatment for your child.

How do I find the right treatment for my child? If you do not have the luxury of a word of mouth referral and many parents don’t; physicians, pediatricians and nutritionists are always a good place to start. You can call other therapists in the area or get online and contact the nearest eating disorder treatment center or inpatient hospital. Most facilities have a list of therapists who have referred clients to their program and many have a list of referral sources for parents just like you.

If there is no facility near you, contact multiple programs until you have several therapists in your area to choose from.

What questions do I ask the therapist? The primary questions I would ask are what is their experience with eating disorders, how much do they involve the family in therapy (the more the better), and could they put a past client in contact with you. This way it becomes a word of mouth referral and you will feel more assured your child will be in good hands. There are families with whom I have worked in the past who are more than willing to offer support and information to others about me and their experience with me.

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